By definition, mature means when a person behaving in a sensible way like adult in sense of differentiate between good or bad, right or wrong. Initially, sense of maturity differs in each individual, some say it comes with gender or age while others highlight on how a person being brought up. From these arguments, let us review ourselves do we think we are mature enough or do we just pretend to look adult? Eventually, I came across to this framework called “Traits of Mature, Self-Actualizing Person”, and it didn’t took me that long to apply this concept.

However, as I went along with the article, I found that learning about human expression or development wasn’t as easy as I thought. Self-Actualizing is only part of the main element of being sensible adult. A person relatively exposes to self-insight and level of maturity also base on your self-knowing, basically how far do you know about yourself, your feeling, your action: especially those spontaneous.

The article mentioned the effect of “inner child” that may influence the character and mind set of an individual. Any child from dysfunction family would suffer a tremendous pressure and the built in behaviour would starts to pattern the perception towards it social interaction. Even in Islam, we regards a child as a clean, pure, white cloth that comes under responsible to his/her closest relatives to protect and educate and also brings the best of it.

As from my other readings, I discovered that family influence holds an important in child development. For instance, based on Sir Richard Branson autobiography, it shows that he had to learn things in a hard way although all these events were guided closely by his parents. Same goes with David Beckham, (my favourite personality) he was encourage by his family to excel in his interest which is in soccer from young, and he did superbly (even though I must say he is not that really good if its compare with other Latin player).. sorry lad.

I remembered how strict my dad was to me when I was young. Even, sometimes I wished to live with other kind of family that has more interaction rather than military method “follow instruction” family. No television during weekdays and strict hours during weekends, no jeans or t shirt, my handwriting must be perfect, I have to address properly in public and even get scold only for not make my bed properly. At that point, I felt like I am going to commit suicide, these rules and regulation only suite for royalty, not me.

But as times went on, I realized these things are important for me, in sense of putting me as a better person. Any parents would react or treat their child in these manners, therefore his/her needs to learn in a very hard way in order to face the challenge awaits them as they grow. Its funny to actually being called “mummy’s boy”, a tag with purpose to make me feel immature but eventually what I can say now is “syurga terletak di tapak kaki ibu”, its reflect back to the individual by compare to his/her situation. Responsibility comes with maturity, same goes with leadership and in a platoon, if each unit doesn’t follow his role, and the only letter they will write is their testament.

As far as I can say, level of maturity doesn’t rely on age, however, mostly it is how far do you know about yourself, best known as self-knowing. Sad to say some people haven’t reached this stage even by the age of 30. Age doesn't matter, experience is..

Good luck of getting to know about yourself and remember don’t always judge book by its cover.. You can never really know about a person.

On no soul do We place a burden greater than it can bear: before Us is a record which clearly shows the truth: they will never be wronged. But their hearts are in confused ignorance of this and there are, besides that, deeds of theirs, which they will (continue) to do..